Set the tone....

No matter what we have to go through as moms, it makes it all worth it when they look at you and say " I love you mom!" We need to stay strong through the hard days, the days we want to go back to bed so we can have these days. The day they want to come and lay in your arms and cuddle. Snuggle up with a blanket and just be with you. When in the "hard " moment I know you can easily forget that smiling loving face that just hours ago was laughing with you, now they are fighting with each other and screaming. Take a breath, and calmly put them in time out! I know, trust me I have done it plenty, it is hard to be calm and just yell at the. But , by accident I want you to know I am not perfect and all knowing, I found that when you talk calm and in a low voice they stop and look at you as if they was not what they were working towards. It works, call me crazy but it works. The days I for get to do that I am so ready for bed time at 6pm, but when I stay calm to follow. They just want to please us, even thought it doesn't seem like it they do. Give it a try and see how it works. They may just get a new mommy!

I feel better now that I stay calm, remember happy mom happy home. So true. We set the tone for our house hold, so lets give them something to take into life with them.

Now in all honesty I have to give my husband credit for teaching me this. He is a calm person naturally and nothing ruffles his feathers, use to drive me crazy, but now I try to be more like it.

YOU

As women, and now as moms, we do it more than ever. We let our self get pulled in so many different directions that we are not sure, are we coming or going?! Funny how we find it OK to use every last minute of our day for the kids, husband, or friends but we can't stop for 10 minutes to do something for YOU! The holiday season is coming very quick.... well it is here. I know fast, but our goal this season is to take some time for you/ me. Now I know this will be hard so we will start small, like once a week then every other day, then work up to every day. Even if it is 10 minutes you will see yourself in a new light. That you are you, and you do count!

You do count and you are not JUST their mom our his wife, you are a women that feels, loves and needs!

Your not alone!

When you get to that point in your life when you have a child no one tells you. How you will feel as a women. Why is that? We as women has built this new world on our female power but yet we keep the most important inside.
Once you become a mother it is a balance between being you and being a mom, wife, friend, daughter, employee. A balance that can easily shift from side to side. It doesn't have to be this way, we as women need to band together and talk , teach each other how to stay balance. I know how easy it is to be mom and wife all the time that you forget who you are. I have found myself saying " What do I like to do? What do I like to eat?"
When your kids are small, babies, you are so in a cycle that you can't see yourself slipping till they are older and can feed them self. It happens slowly a piece at a time. But if we stand together and help each other we can stay on level ground and not slip.
Now for this to happen we have to get out of our heads that it is a weak sign to ask for help. I know I am the worst when it comes to this, but why? Because some where down the road someone told us if you can't handle all of it you are weak and not a good mom/wife.

IT"S NOT TRUE!!!